My parents are so pushy. I am a contortionist and I want to be a famous contortionist but all my parent care about are……. They have made me depressed. My dad almost killed my three times. He almost broke my arm 2 times and threw a comb at my heart because of my grades and now they want me to ace the state test.
Qirhead, your not wrong and parents can be mean and destructive to their kids lives. I would say to you to do your best to dance around her and do not let her define you as you will soon be entering your teen years and you want to have goals so you can grow up and be something in life and use your talents what ever they may be.
Be strong and keep positive no matter what. Talk to someone at your school a favorite teacher or counselor. Your email address will not be published. Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Counseling News , Family. By Taylor Bennett on Aug 31, with Comments. The following are possible underlying causes for your seemingly unwarranted hate: Desire for independence. You may simply desire or be seeking more independence and your relationship with your parents is consequentially suffering.
This typically happens a lot with age. When I moved back home for the summer after my freshman year of college, I expected a greater degree of independence and a lesser degree of rule enforcement from my dad. However, it was as if I returned to my home as a teenager in high school. Phase of rebellion. Media exposure. You may see a slightly different or better relationship portrayed on screen and wish that your mom or dad was more like it.
This can absolutely cause a strain in your relationship if they object to your choices or if your differences are so varying that they create big issues. Beyonce Knowles: Beyonce Knowles has reportedly never gotten along with her father, nor has her sister or mother. This greed and hunger for money certainly drove a wedge between him and his family.
Explore the latest mental wellness tips and discussions, delivered straight to your inbox. Email Address. Ugh on December 29, at pm. Alayna on February 26, at pm. Honey on January 17, at am. Same with me dude. L1fe Su6ks on February 11, at pm. My parents are Arse holes Reply. Zaria on April 17, at pm. Maryam on July 14, at pm. Dude on October 8, at pm. Soisetta Woodard on May 31, at pm. Same here but they seem to favor my middle brother and he does shit and gets away with while l get blame for everything Reply.
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I hate it Reply. Unknown on November 13, at am. My father blackmails me a lot, and I want to leave as soon as possible. Lakshana on August 20, at am. Bruh i feel the same on December 3, at am. I feel the exact same way this is exactly true Reply.
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My dad hit and in the leg but hard and it hurt then my dad laugh of me crying Reply. Pragya on April 13, at am. I love him Reply. Kk on May 25, at pm. My dad said he wanted to drop me off at a orphanage so yep….
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Deborah on November 2, at am. D: Reply. However, many studies have shown that this is simply not the case. In fact, very strict parenting is linked to children who learn how to become sneaky and work around their parents, rather than trust them. Any father who is abusive to a child's mother shouldn't be surprised if their child hates him. The same can be true if they hurt anyone who was important in your life. It can be tempting to punish your father, out of loyalty, love, care and respect for your mother.
At the same time, loving one person well, does not require hating the one who harmed her. And healthy mothers will want their children to have healthy relationships with their fathers, unless attempting to do so places you in potential physical, mental, or emotional danger.
A professional counselor can help you figure out if you should move forward with your relationship with your dad, or let it go. When a father is regularly absent, not around, or even preoccupied with issues such as bipolar disorders, eating disorders, etc.
Many fathers who work in busy careers, such as art design, politics, business, finance, world politics, etc. The lack of time can have harmful impacts on the family unit at large, causing children to blame themselves. As kids get older, they may begin to hate or resent absent fathers for not being around more often. Although the hatred of your father may run extremely deep-and may even span generations-you shouldn't abandon hope for recovery.
Many men have found that consistent therapy sessions with a qualified professional can help resolve feelings of pain, confusion, and hatred toward fathers, in favor of acceptance and understanding. Some of these patients will go on to develop stronger relationships with their fathers, some will engage in further therapy sessions with their fathers, and some will simply move forward, armed with the knowledge that they are not alone, and that their wounds will eventually heal; regardless, healing and moving forward from hatred for your father are certainly possible.
Therapy services are helpful for hatred of fathers, largely because therapists are equipped with tools to help you get to the root of your feelings-roots that might be obvious, in the case of people whose fathers abandoned their families, or roots that might be obscure, as may be the case of people whose fathers were seemingly model citizens, who stuck around and provided for their families. Familial relationships are complicated and multilayered, and it is almost impossible to look at them through an unbiased perspective on your own.
A therapist can help you peek into your own past and behavioral patterns to determine what exactly requires healing in order to ease the hatred you feel. Whether you are seeking help specifically for feelings of hatred, or you are seeking mental health help for another reason, a therapist will have experience working with people who have similar feelings toward their fathers.
For one thing, holding onto hatred can negatively impact your own mental health. Regardless of why you hate your father whether this has to do with parental alienation, personal disagreements, etc. If you believe that you may be carrying around hatred, to find therapist services, a treatment center, or even to find a support group can be life-changing.
Therapeutic interventions can work to heal all kinds of relationships. While marriage counseling is the most well-known form of relationship therapy, therapists can be invaluable tools in helping families connect, reconnect, or heal from absences. If you feel hatred toward your father, a therapist can help you determine the most likely cause of your feelings, develop coping mechanisms to handle your feelings in a healthy way, and learn how to mend your relationship, if that is a possible or desired step.
Therapy delivered by a psychologist in an office setting can be a wonderful tool, as can online therapy; if reconciliation is your goal, your father may be more inclined to discuss ongoing concerns from the comfort of your home or his. He quickly became interested in current affairs and politics, which gave him a new insight into the world.
It made me lose respect for them. He was miserable to be around. Several years later, Andy graduated from university and bought a house. She said it looked like a council house and asked why I wanted to live in a slum. Helen lost contact with two of her four adult children this year, after ending an emotionally abusive relationship with their father.
She believes her former partner has used the same manipulation tactics on her children as those that destroyed their marriage. Search Questions or Ask New:. Top Rated Answers. People do not earn the right to your love by being your biological parents. Liking, and loving your parents, comes from you and from them, from your interactions with each other, the level of trust you have in each other, the level of respect you have for each other.
There is no norm, there's you, and your own private feeling. Parents do not earn their kid's love by being their procreator, they do by being their parents, and offering them love first. Did you find this post helpful? Growing up, I would very often witness my father's short temper and the way he would direct this at my mother. He also had a lot of pride and would never admit he was wrong.
This really made me infuriate inside but I was too afraid to confront him because I knew that would only make him more angry. If I invited friends over to my house, I would dread them having to see that side of him too as it was very embarrassing.
Although I wasn't fully aware of it, I had built up resentment towards my father throughout my childhood and into my early adulthood. This was why I found it difficult to be affectionate towards him and to ever tell him I loved him.
However, I recently read something that brought this resentment to my awareness and inspired me to do something about it. I made a list of all the reasons why I resent my father, another list of all the things I love and appreciate him for and another list of what I'd like to apologize for. The aim of this was to forgive him, for my sake, so that I could release this resentment. This was such a powerful process for me that it brought me to tears.
I should have understood that my father is not a perfect human being, just as I am not a perfect human being. I should have been honest, thankful and loving towards him.
The real challenge was then to tell my father all the reasons why I loved and appreciated him and what I wanted to apologize for. At first, I thought this would be impossible. But the next morning, I decided it would be for the best. My father was pretty surprised at all this, but we hugged for a long time afterwards. I felt a weight was lifted and a connection was reborn.
This was a big and very unexpected turning point in my life and I believe it plays a key part in the transformation I have made since then with regards to my confidence, openness, patience, acceptance and ability to be loving in relationships. It was actually a year later when I decided to tell my father why I had done that, and about the resentment I had felt.
He was extremely humble and apologetic; he admitted he has a short temper but that he's really working on it and that he's sorry for not having been a better father. I now feel closer than ever to him :. Anonymous - Expert in Family Stress February 9th, pm. You're human, there will always be people you dislike even if they're your own family.
Perhaps you don't feel a connection with him, or you don't feel comfortable around him. If you dislike his actions, words or personality it's only natural to dislike him. And that is perfectly fine.
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